What Should I Expect?

With Josh's last post under our belts, let's all take a deep breath.

Okay, I hope you're ready to receive what I'm going to say today!

I thought last night about all the young women I know, *myself included* who made a "list" of things they want in a guy.

Obviously, He has to be a Christian.

But, what else?

See, a long time ago, God diminished my unrealistic expectations for a spouse.

I wrote a list, on May 15, 2010 of all the things I wanted in my future spouse.

1. Being a Christian isn't enough- He must be walking with Christ, pursuing a deeper relationship with the Father.

2. He must love God, more than He will ever love me.

That's my list.

Yep.

I have preferences, absolutely. But, the Lord knows those, I've told Him. But, it was not, and is not, my intention to limit Him. I felt like, if I had a specific detailed list, that God couldn't work through it. Because, that would mean ultimately I could harden my heart toward what God has for me. I believe He hears our requests, I believe He hears our prayers, and He knows our hearts; However, I do not believe that having a long "list" of expectations is realistic or healthy.

See, I know that God works in mysterious ways. I know a woman who was not at all attracted to this man, she grew up with him, they went to the same church, but she swore to never marry him, he wasn't her type. But, she ended up falling deeply in love with him and marrying him. They now live in North Carolina and have five young children.

Crazy, huh?

Don't obsess over his height, hair color, and such. It's ridiculous. Even a bit childish.

Because, if you're obsessing over what you want in your future spouse. You do not have your eyes fully upon Jesus Christ. Only when you are solely focused on Christ, and are completely incandescently content in Him and are striving to serve Him and see His purposes fulfilled, will He bring the kind of guy into your life that you want to marry.

Sure, there may be men who are "interested" in you. But, you need to be at rest in Christ, before you enter into a relationship with a man.

Trust Him. Proverbs 3:5-6

Honor him. Proverbs 31:12