Thank you Josh, for this and the next blog entry you will write.
You are a true brother in the Lord, and He is using you!
Listen, I don't want
anyone to take this the wrong way. I’m not attempting to condemn anyone
or to seem all knowing, this is simply something that really has touched
my heart lately and I’m not going to sit around and do nothing about
it. Please read this all the way through otherwise you may think I’m a
sexist scumbag lol. Also if I tagged you in this it isn't because I
think you need it, I basically tagged EVERYONE lol this wasn't a
selective judgmental process at all. I hope that some of you truly know
my character and the kind of man I am striving to be. I am not perfect
and I’ve failed miserably but I’m a firm believer that “it doesn’t
matter how many times you fall, all that matters is how many times you GET UP.
That being said I’m diving right into this. Lately I’ve been seeing a trend in women and men alike but more so in women/young ladies. Time and time again I watch men cheat/lie and use women in many different ways but then I see what disturbs me…. The girl or women does 1 of 2 things. She either goes running back to this jerk or she goes right to another man either for a relationship or simply for sex. This truly breaks my heart in ways I cannot describe because it’s a vicious cycle and I watch as this girl goes from relationship to relationship to relationship and each time she ends up more broken then the last. What I’m about to say next isn’t easy but it’s the truth. Women you are part of the reason why men are scumbags to you. Some guys will never change and I understand that but when you constantly run from man to man or back to the same guy who just hurt you, you give him PERMISSION to do it again. You train him that he can just walk all over you like a doormat and you will just keep coming back. You make yourself nothing more than a piece of meat. (Once again please don’t takes this the wrong way, it’s a two way street guys are to blame also). All that being said I don’t think that’s the root of the issue. The root of the issue is this, at some point in your life a MAN told you that you weren’t worth it and that you had ZERO value, purpose or meaning in this life or maybe he just gave you no attention at all. He did this by beating you, sexually abusing you, verbally telling you or maybe he abandoned you and your mother, maybe he treated your mother like complete crap. Whatever the issue was a man deeply scarred you somehow or simply never loved you like a young women deserves to be loved and cherished. (Please search your heart because if this is you then the only way you can heal things and change is if you acknowledge this.) Maybe your crying at this point… well let me tell you something. YOU DO HAVE VALUE/PURPOSE AND MEANING IN THIS LIFE. You deserve to be loved and cherished regardless of what happened to you, whether you allowed it or it was forced on you, there is forgiveness and I’ll talk about that in a minute. As women you are meant to submit and be gracious to men, but let me say this….don’t you dare submit to a man who constantly DISHONORS you, he doesn’t deserve it and you deserve better!! The only man you should even think about submitting to is a man who shows that he wants to lead you with honor and wants to protect you…not USE you. What I’m going to say next is also hard to say but it’s the truth. SEX DOES NOT EQUATE TO LOVE.
I’m a guy I know this all too well and I’m ashamed of it but let me tell you first hand…of all the girls I’ve had sex with I only really loved 2 of them. Looking back I wouldn’t have had sex with any of the girls I did, even the 2 I loved because when I loved them I didn’t love myself, they gave me permission to love myself and I didn’t love them I relied on them there is a HUGE difference. Btw I’m not talking about loving myself in a cocky way, I’m talking about my value/worth and purpose as a man. For all my life I have wondered why I was so insecure about myself. I constantly needed a girl in my life to give me value, worth and attention. I’ve finally figured it out though…it’s to write this to you because I know that one girl desperately needs this right now. Her life is falling apart and this is EXACTLY why. Over and over again you find your value and worth in men and every single time they let you down. Guess what….your not alone and you can get through this. There is only one way though….some of you may not like this and it may be weird to you but I promise it is real. Do you honestly think as a 20 year old male I would give a crap about helping you, what makes me different from any other guy. Why would I tell you that Sex does not equal love, I should want to USE you myself. What makes me different is my relationship with my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I cannot describe in words, the grace, love and forgiveness he has shown me. I am not perfect and I have failed so much, you have no idea but what God has done in my life is truly amazing, read some of my other notes if you want but that’s a topic for another day. Right now it’s about you. I know this Jesus thing is weird and I know it’s hard to relate to Him because….it’s another MAN. But I promise he is so much more then that :DDDD Listen to how he says you should be treated.
That’s
how much God loves you ladies, it’s how much he loves us all. Your
forgiven and free to live a life full of worth/value/acceptance/purpose
and meaning. It’s your choice whether or not you want to accept it or
keep living the way you are. Once again I’m not condemning I’m no better
than anyone else but this I know FIRST HAND. If you
seek Jesus, if you pray even when you feel like your talking to no one
and you ask for him to show you his love and to come into your life and
change it. HE WILL!!!! I promise you that, I have ZERO
benefit in lying to you. This is all for Jesus and for the broken
hearts that are desperate for a change in their life. I’ve tagged
plenty of girls to read this, including some amazing women of God that I
know to be genuine and pure who have experienced exactly what I’ve
written about. Please feel free to comment on this and ask questions or
message me. I also hope that the godly women I speak of would be blessed
with plenty of time to possibly answer questions or messages to help
heal these broken hearts with Jesus loving help.
You are a true brother in the Lord, and He is using you!
That being said I’m diving right into this. Lately I’ve been seeing a trend in women and men alike but more so in women/young ladies. Time and time again I watch men cheat/lie and use women in many different ways but then I see what disturbs me…. The girl or women does 1 of 2 things. She either goes running back to this jerk or she goes right to another man either for a relationship or simply for sex. This truly breaks my heart in ways I cannot describe because it’s a vicious cycle and I watch as this girl goes from relationship to relationship to relationship and each time she ends up more broken then the last. What I’m about to say next isn’t easy but it’s the truth. Women you are part of the reason why men are scumbags to you. Some guys will never change and I understand that but when you constantly run from man to man or back to the same guy who just hurt you, you give him PERMISSION to do it again. You train him that he can just walk all over you like a doormat and you will just keep coming back. You make yourself nothing more than a piece of meat. (Once again please don’t takes this the wrong way, it’s a two way street guys are to blame also). All that being said I don’t think that’s the root of the issue. The root of the issue is this, at some point in your life a MAN told you that you weren’t worth it and that you had ZERO value, purpose or meaning in this life or maybe he just gave you no attention at all. He did this by beating you, sexually abusing you, verbally telling you or maybe he abandoned you and your mother, maybe he treated your mother like complete crap. Whatever the issue was a man deeply scarred you somehow or simply never loved you like a young women deserves to be loved and cherished. (Please search your heart because if this is you then the only way you can heal things and change is if you acknowledge this.) Maybe your crying at this point… well let me tell you something. YOU DO HAVE VALUE/PURPOSE AND MEANING IN THIS LIFE. You deserve to be loved and cherished regardless of what happened to you, whether you allowed it or it was forced on you, there is forgiveness and I’ll talk about that in a minute. As women you are meant to submit and be gracious to men, but let me say this….don’t you dare submit to a man who constantly DISHONORS you, he doesn’t deserve it and you deserve better!! The only man you should even think about submitting to is a man who shows that he wants to lead you with honor and wants to protect you…not USE you. What I’m going to say next is also hard to say but it’s the truth. SEX DOES NOT EQUATE TO LOVE.
I’m a guy I know this all too well and I’m ashamed of it but let me tell you first hand…of all the girls I’ve had sex with I only really loved 2 of them. Looking back I wouldn’t have had sex with any of the girls I did, even the 2 I loved because when I loved them I didn’t love myself, they gave me permission to love myself and I didn’t love them I relied on them there is a HUGE difference. Btw I’m not talking about loving myself in a cocky way, I’m talking about my value/worth and purpose as a man. For all my life I have wondered why I was so insecure about myself. I constantly needed a girl in my life to give me value, worth and attention. I’ve finally figured it out though…it’s to write this to you because I know that one girl desperately needs this right now. Her life is falling apart and this is EXACTLY why. Over and over again you find your value and worth in men and every single time they let you down. Guess what….your not alone and you can get through this. There is only one way though….some of you may not like this and it may be weird to you but I promise it is real. Do you honestly think as a 20 year old male I would give a crap about helping you, what makes me different from any other guy. Why would I tell you that Sex does not equal love, I should want to USE you myself. What makes me different is my relationship with my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I cannot describe in words, the grace, love and forgiveness he has shown me. I am not perfect and I have failed so much, you have no idea but what God has done in my life is truly amazing, read some of my other notes if you want but that’s a topic for another day. Right now it’s about you. I know this Jesus thing is weird and I know it’s hard to relate to Him because….it’s another MAN. But I promise he is so much more then that :DDDD Listen to how he says you should be treated.
I know it can seem weird at first and you may not fully understand it but summed up Jesus is saying that men should love their wives like Jesus loved us. In the bible Jesus died for us, so basically as a man I am called to love my wife with EVERYTHING that I am. She deserves to get the best of me because God says so. I want you to think about this for a minute…how amazing would you feel if a man truly and I mean TRULY loved you. He sacrificed to make your life better, he stayed in shape simply so he could turn YOU and only you on at night, what if he protected you and defended your honor with everything he was and what if he didn’t want sex all the time, what if he truly desired intimacy with you and took you on a date with no other intention then to make you feel LOVED. That is what you want ladies, deep down it’s what your looking for, you may have a very hardened heart towards it though and you may think it’s impossible. It’s not impossible and we can discuss that later it’s time to talk about forgiveness. No matter what you’ve done or how many times you’ve done it Jesus wants to forgive you. He isn’t sitting up in heaven angry at you ready to hit the “lightning” button. He died for you and when he was hanging on a cross he was thinking about YOU. Even now He is screaming out, “Please, please I love you, seek me and my forgiveness and let me heal the brokenness I want to be there for you and I want to provide a husband for you that will be everything your heart desires if you seek me first”. It reminds me of a story in John 4 that I truly love, it is amazing! Jesus is sitting by a well and a women walks up to get water with a bucket and the conversation that ensues is incredible, check this out….“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her, “Will you give me a drink?” 8 (His disciples had gone into the town to buy food.)
9 The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews did not associate with Samaritans at that time, it would have been like a king talking to a slave way back in royal times…it didn’t happen)
10 Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.”
11 “Sir,” the woman said, “you have nothing to draw with and the well is deep. Where can you get this living water? 12 Are you greater than the man who built the well, and who gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did also his sons and his livestock?”
13 Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, 14 but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”
15 The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.”
16 He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.”
17 “I have no husband,” she replied.
Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. 18 The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”
You
see!!! This woman her entire life used men to fulfill her desire to be
loved/valued/and cherished. She had 5 husbands and who knows how many
boyfriends or sexual experiences in between all of them. She jumped from
man to man but Jesus courageously steps in and says “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, 14 but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst.”
Ladies he isn’t talking about water, he is talking about your burning
desire to be LOVED more than anything else! He knows exactly the way you
feel because he created you! Notice how he doesn’t scold the women, he
doesn’t condemn her…he lovingly offers her the water she desires. I
think this quote from my other note called “We all want it..” will
explain what I’m trying to say.
“John 4:4 states "but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” it's a beautiful description of what God wants for us. We all THIRST for approval/love/acceptance and naturally we try to satisfy that thirst but we never can...apart from Him. I know it sounds crazy but when you truly internalize the truth that "you will never thirst again" you begin to realize that He is all you need. Every worry, doubt, fear, burden...He wants to carry it for you and every desire/need/want He longs to satisfy for you. Nothing is too big or too small, He created time and space he is more then capable of handling any situation we face. No one know the true meaning of "Unconditional" love esp now a days. We all conditionally love at some point or another but Chirst never did. "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8. Imagine the person you HATE the most, the one who broke your heart or physically hurt you or hurt your family. Now imagine willingly giving your life solely for their benefit, with no regard of yourself.”
If your
interested in coming to church (No pressure!!! Just simply if your
interested) here is an amazing church that believes exactly what I’ve
talked about and that has truly changed my life with the message of
Jesus…..
Deep Creek Community Church
Charlotte Performing Arts Center (CPAC) theater on the Charlotte High School campus. 701 Carmalita Street, Punta Gorda, FL
Sunday: 10:30-11:30
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