What Do They Really Want?

About a week and a half ago, I felt the Lord urging me to write about what His men want (or find attractive) in a girl. I have compilled this list from several different men who I am very close to, all are single, and living according to the Lord's purpose for their lives. I hope that the list that I will present to you will encourage you that you don't have to seek after a relationship. When the Lord desire's and thinks you are ready to be courted, He will bring a man into your life who has a heart after His own.

1.She Must Love God
This was a unanimous #1 with all the young men that I talked to. It is very easy to see why all these young men want this quality. A couple of the guys went in detail saying "If she can't submit to the Lord, how can I expect her to submit to me within marriage?"

2. Enjoy Being at Home/Have the Desire to Serve at Home
Although a few of the guys didn't see this as an important factor, 90% of them told me this was important. They pointed out that girls should desire to be mother's someday, and learn homemaking skills now. Yet, they were careful to point out that this by no means that they expect, or want girls to be home-bodies. "This desire is something that our culture sees as a turn off, but in reality it's a great quality and I respect a woman who has this Biblical desire," one young man added.

3. Embrace Biblical Womanhood
All of the guys saw this as vital to a strong Christian marriage. "I want my wife to exemplify the Proverbs 31 woman" Andrew said, "This by no means, is a call for her to be perfect, but just by her embracing and welcoming these qualities, it will mold her into the perfect Proverbs 31 woman in time," Josh said.

4. Love of Christ
They all agreed that young women need to have the Love of Jesus Christ in their hearts, and that love needs to be shown in their actions. They all pointed out that qualities like gentleness, meekness, and humility, were important. "I would like all girls to be gentle, I want to win her heart, not have it thrown at me," Carson stated. "Her attitude towards ministry and outreach tells me alot," Aaron said.


They all pointed out that any girl should love God more than they will ever love their future spouse. Also, they stated that they all had different preferences about looks and what is attractive in that avenue, however they felt that it was irrelevent for those preferences to be stated, because they all agreed that personality outweighs out-ward beauty. Several pointed out Proverbs 31:30:

"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised."


I pray that the Lord uses this list to speak to your heart, and remind you (or teach you) that:
"A woman's heart should be so lost in God, that a man needs to seek Him to find her."